Generative Drives Determine Whether a Trauma Bond Between Romantic Partners Is Healthy or Unhealthy

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Andrew Introduces Dr. Paul Conti (Part I)

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Andrew's Disclaimer

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Andrew Introduces Dr. Paul Conti (Part II)

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Living Life With Agency & Gratitude Means Engaging With the World in a Healthy Manner

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Two Pillars Geyser Up Out of Agency & Gratitude: The Structure & Function of Self

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In Romantic Relationships, Compatible Generative Drives Means Each Person's 'Map' Can Synergize

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Most Points of Compatibility Are Utterly Irrelevant in Romantic Relationships

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Being Curious About Your Partner's Interests Is More Important Than Liking the Same Things

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Enthusiasm About Learning As You Age Indicates a Healthy Generative Drive

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Look for a Matching Generative Drive When Searching for a Partner, Not Sameness

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Most Relationship Advice Is Complete Nonsense & Often Contradictory

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Think of Your Pleasure, Aggressive, & Generative Drives as a Set of Potentials

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Watch a Lot of Netflix With Your Partner? Here's What That Means for the Relationship

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A Lack of Generative Drive Underlies Every 'Pan Statement' Within Romantic Relationships

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High Generative Drives Enable Couples With Mismatched Libidos to Meet in the Middle

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Couples With High Pleasure Drives Often Overlook Larger Relationship Goals

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Love Can't Overcome Everything in Relationships, But a High Generative Drive Can

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How Couples With Mismatched Libidos Can Utilize Generative & Pleasure Drives to Compromise

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Repetition Compulsion Leads People to Continually Enter Unhealthy Romantic Relationships

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Fearing Abandonment, Attachment Insecurity Causes People Within Relationships to Compromise the Self

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People Stay in Abusive Relationships Because They're Demoralized & Disempowered

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Within Abusive Relationships, Darkness Always Favors the Oppressor

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A Closed System Without Accountability Is Rolling the Dice for Oppression

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By Facilitating the Tearing Down of Others, Envy Is Destructive

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Envious Individuals Who Approach the World Through a Lens of Greed Will Never Be Happy

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Often 'Under the Surface', Relationship Power Dynamics Are Like an Iceberg

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Give & Take Are Signs of a Healthy Relationship

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It's Better to Give Than to Receive; Paul Conti's Grandmother Portrayed This

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Servicing a Greater Good, Relationship Transactions Don't Indicate a Transactional Relationship

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The Elements of a Healthy Relationship Are Taught in Kindergarten

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Everyone Has Anxiety, But Unhealthy Levels Can Cause Relationship Problems

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Feel Anxious When You're Partner Doesn't Text You Back? Here's What It Might Indicate

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Living in the 'Magic Bridge of Us' Allows Romantic Relationships to Reach Their Full Potential

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Mentalization: Is Putting Yourself in Your Partner's Shoes Always Beneficial?

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When Relationship Conflicts Occurs, Problems Arise When Partners Forgo Mentalizing

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Healthy Relationship Boundaries Are First Squared Away Inside & Then Communicated

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Mentalization Greases the Wheels of Relationship Progress, But It Must Start With Self-Understanding

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Guiding Yourself With a Broken 'Compass' Leads to Unhealthy Romantic Relationships

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Relationship Labels Like 'Boundaries' & 'Anxious Attached' Aren't Substitutes for Understanding

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Andrew & Paul Outro

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Andrew Huberman Outro (Part I)

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