So I have a funny little story that felt almost too risque to

tell love I love. To escape. Let's do it. I don't require these in front of a crowd. Can always edit.

Oslo Norway. Hmm. My band was on tour and we were there for three nights and for the first two nights, there was this girl in the audience. It was kind of making eyes at me on stage. And so, the second night, I went to go talk to her and we hit it off and we hung out all night long and it was wonderful, but we didn't have (expletive). Hmm, that's when I was like, can I say this on the air? We did not consummate. But we kind of regretted it. So then it was the third day and it was the day that I was leaving. And there's this big kind of Central Park in the middle of central Oslo and we're in the park and, you know, housekeeping came at 10 a.m. like dime to check out time to go. Nothing. And she was asking them in Norwegian, like please one more hour and they said, no get out. She's like, so we go out to this park and she's like, oh (expletive), I wish I could be with you. I wish it. She's like, cod, I just still want to be with you. And like (expletive) me to was like I wish we could and then I looked around and this park is surrounded by like you know Sheraton Hilton Marriott and it was 11:00 in my fairy was leaving at 4:00 hmm. Oh and there's one detail. She was just in the process of breaking up with her fiancé a small detail. So this matters because I said hey what do you think about getting a hotel for a few hours? She's like, ah, Well we could fly casual kind of naughty, doesn't it like yeah. But let's do it. Mmm. Yeah. Okay. You don't like she's like but I can't be seen with you. She said, just on the chance that a friend of mine walks by I can't be seen going into a hotel with some strange, man. I said, okay, so here's what I'll do. I'll go in the hotel all get a room. And then I'll text you the room number and you come up a few minutes later, she said, okay good. So I went into the hood and whatever Hotel. It was all just say Sheraton and is like, welcome to the Sheraton Hotel, you know? And I said, hey, I'm here for one night I'd like a room and great. No problem. Okay. Tomorrow breakfast will be served over here and such and such and here's your room and and okay, he gives me my keys. So I go up to the room and I text her the room number, and she comes up. Five minutes later. So then we have fun for a few hours and it's great. But now it's 2:30 and it's time for me to go get my fairy. So, this time we reverse it, I go down alone first, and I go to the guy at the front desk and I said, hey, I've decided to catch the fourth, clock fairies ago is everything. Okay. Was there any problem? I said, no, no problem at all. Everything's great. Just decided to catch an earlier fairies. So paying in full here it is. He's so he's charging my card. It's already done, he's doing the thing, but then he sees her walk by And he goes, wait a minute. I don't like this one bit, so he remembers that he saw her come in 5 minutes after me. Now, she's leaving five minutes after me and he goes, this is not some stupid establishment. This is not. This is a various reputable Hotel. I do not like this. No, you must not do not, I don't like this one bit, he's getting really angry. Yeah, and I was so happy because not for the obvious but like it was So liberating realizing that I've done. Nothing wrong. Hmm. Nobody was hurt. This is fully like consensual. He's, you know, they were paid for their room. Mmm. And even though he's angry, he can't get me in trouble. Like I haven't broken the law, and I think that we so often as kids, we spend so much of our life, the first half of our life and of deferring to Authority and thinking that Authority has power over us. And at a certain point, you realize that Free. You're liberated from that as long as you don't break the law. Hmm. Even if people tell you you're a bad person that it's not true. They're just saying that because of their rules or whatever. So this to me was a major turning point in my life realizing that I was liberated from Authority and from judgment. So, a couple things. So the first is

I read a piece recently. I think the author's name is Ava a VA. I don't know, her full name Book bear on sub stack and the headline the title of the be something like on not disappointing myself and it's a discussion of disappointing others. How disappointing others, but not disappointing yourself is important. I mean, that's the kind of upshot of it very well written introduced to me by a friend named Mike, Thank you, Mike. So I'd recommend people take a look at that because I think it relates since you made mention of the fiance though. I want to stand in for some of the audience who will say, we'll wait a second. You said you didn't do anything wrong, but we live in a society we do follow rules. Otherwise we are with the animals. So what is good? What is bad is based on societal Norms? I'm sure there are people listening are like, well, wait a second, thank you have fun for a couple hours with someone who is still engaged. How would you respond to people who find that morally repugnant

They had broken up, but we're still living together because she just hadn't got yet. Okay.

All right. Okay, third, I wouldn't see the somebody's wife. Okay, well, I got fiance. Okay. Got but no, I know what you mean that it's

but in those moments, you have to ask yourself. Do I agree with this rule? Mmm, especially if you travel the world. What's polite in Japan can be rude in New Zealand and vice versa. These different ideas of what is the right wrong thing to do are completely arbitrary and they change with geography and so So you get to kind of pick and choose and you can choose to fit into the local Norms or sometimes you choose, not to, because you disagree with them, because the same with individuals and people. Yeah. You were liberated from others Norms. You can choose your own.