me of the time when one is trying to decide who to ask to the prom, you know, there's a, there's a complicated assessment based on who one would like to go with whether or not you're already partnered. Who would say? Yes, who would say no. Because there's a there's a risk in rejection to because that if I'm guessing correctly with wood, can lower one's own perceived mate. Yeah. Value rejected, right? Frequency of rejections. Probably doesn't lend itself well to increasing Matrix. Yeah, one's own view of their main value,
right? Which is why many guys have what I call mating anxiety. That is they don't approach him because they risk getting shot down there
trying to maintain that number in the, by reducing the amount of data. All right. Yeah, very
easy, but it's but it's but it's Backfires in the modern environment. So there's a famous psychologist Albert Ellis who had made anxiety, and he assigned himself the task of approaching asking. Like I can't remember what the number was, but let's say 50 women out on dates. He lived in New York city. So it was either a lot of women. He
could just stand still and they've extreme. Yeah.
And any signs of like ask 50 women on a date, you know, every every week and he said after two weeks has made anxiety disappear because most of them said buzz off creep. But he decided, Fonzie's get actually getting rejected didn't cause my world, the collapse and it actually was okay. And so, he kind of been nerd himself to this rejection. And so, it ended up, I ended up doing quite well on this mating life.
Another point for cognitive behavioral to sensitization. Yes, exactly. The ran, the experiment,
Albert Ellis Cured His Mating Anxiety By Asking Out 50 Women/Day for 2 Weeks
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