have a friend who wife told me that if she, if he cheats, I'll kill him. That's what she said. But it's actually just much easier to keep him very, very busy. And and that statement now that leaps to mind because of what you're describing that there are many tactics by which people can engage this effort to reduce the made value discrepancy. Not all of which are virtually violent. Yeah, but summer but all of which are designed to constrain their behavior,
right? Right. Yeah. These were so these would fall under what I would call Mate retention tactics and only one or two. Of which fall under the violence category? Yeah, there are even. Yeah. Within partner psychological manipulations about these things. So there are psychological manipulations about perceived made value, you know, no one else would want you, you know, you're a loser. There's denigration of partner within the relationship, even feigning anger to make the partner feel guilty about About say, looking at someone else. So, so there's all kinds of internecine warfare that goes on within our relationships to manipulate perceptions of these things. This is I'm creating a much too jaded view of romance and love. I think. Oh
no, I, we will get to the, the Happy Endings and, and Lon. I mean, there are certainly, many happy relationships out there. I owe, you know, as a neuroscientist. I hear about this in and the immediacy of how You don't fall into a pattern of jealousy or a pattern of cheating and not always but and I it just speaks to brain circuitry that's evolved to protect something and I'm sure this statement is not exhaustive, but I think it's accurate to say that every species but especially humans wants to make more of itself and protect its young but these issues of paternity and resource allocation. I think they're vital and you know, I look forward to a day where evolutionary Psychology and Neuroscience are Can merge at the level of underlying mechanism, but I don't think it's dark. I think it's just that the way we're wired at some level.