Now, Financial infidelity has been explored much less, but in my new book when men behave badly, I have a section on financial infidelity or I summarize all the research that has been done and I was kind of flabbergasted by the percentage of people who do things like have credit cards that their spouse doesn't know about keep secret bank accounts, have the credit card bills, mail to their office rather than their home. How Of basically resources and expenditures of pooled resources that they keep from their partner and both sexes, do it and and the percentages vary from study to study. But they range from like 30 to 60 percent of all people who are keeping financial information from their, from, their spouse in one way or another. Could be the woman's out buying designer purses or designer handbags could be the guys out. About going to strip clubs or taking his affair partner to restaurants and doesn't want those charges to show up on you know, jointly held credit card. So Financial infidelity is critical and that even things like diverting pooled resources to one set of genetic relatives versus another set. Is another thing that people tend to keep secret. So there are forms of financial infidelity as Well, so yeah, infidelity, you're absolutely, it's a great question because it shouldn't be confined to sexual infidelity, which is what most people think about, but also emotional and financial interesting lie, if you ask people, what do you mean? What what is infidelity in a marriage men? Tend to say, well, it's obvious. As she has (expletive) with someone else. That's infidelity. Whereas women are more likely to have a broader definition. Mission of infidelity they will cite things like emotional infidelity Financial infidelity as part of the definition. Whereas men have that more narrow definition. Interesting.
30-60% of Married Individuals Commit Financial Infidelity
Dr. David Buss: How Humans Select & Keep Romantic Partners in Short & Long Term | Episode 48