Kapil Gupta: You Have Wasted Your Entire Life (but it's ok) | Clubhouse AMA

You have wasted your entire life.

But it's okay.

What is the? It's okay mean, really? It's okay, means that.

There's no reason to be frenetic about it. And there's no reason to try and feel good about it.

Because if you try to feel good about it.

You'll just taste your own tail if you become frenetic about it.

What is the fanaticism going to do?

Is there fanaticism going to take you somewhere to where you stop wasting your life?

So any reaction that you have is irrelevant, that's what it's okay means.

It's okay. Also means

That up until now you wasted your entire life.

But tomorrow is going to be the same as today. So it wasn't like today is going to be the last that you waste your life. And from now on things are going to be different. Nothing is going to be different.

Because if something is going to be different.

There, it would have been different for different from at least the middle if not the beginning.

No, sure. There is a possibility that there's a rare individual who has not heard this information before. And therefore. He is exposed to a truth that perhaps he has resonated with tonight. And this takes this produces a shock to the system and sensing veering off on a an entirely different course. Sure. That's possible. That's brought that's possible.

That possibility can never be denied.

But for virtually 100 percent of the individuals listening to this. The it's okay means that it's nothing is going to change because you're the reason is that your love of socialisation your your interest in your iPhone's.

Passion for the societal ways of doing things. The trying to impress your friends and co-workers. They binge watching television. Serials

the following one prescription and how to and Method and hack after another, the trying to better yourself through a self-help books in the spirituality that you practicing meditation, mindfulness, and various different austerities in order to

Become more spiritual or more better. None of which me, anything. All of those things are not going to change. They're not going to change not because you should change them or because you're doing it wrong. They're not going to change because within you is an undeniable belief that those has those things actually mean something and because you're attached to the idea of meaning and purpose spirituality and society and self.

LP self-development and the gurus on the motivational speakers and the priests and the pundits and the best-selling books and the author's, and the media and everything has done a number on you. That is so,

So, unwavering.

And practically irreversible.

That is just complete. There's no coming back. The assault is simply too great in the conditioning is too deep. Therefore. You will continue to waste your entire life. And what does it mean to waste a life, a waste of life means that you have wasted an opportunity. Not that and nothing that I say. Should there be a rude? I should attached to it.

it is that you should not waste this opportunity. You shouldn't do anything or should do anything. There's no right or wrong, good or bad.

With the opportunity to find truth or realization or understand who you truly are.

But because Society has conditioned you to seek happiness and

Behind every street corner your entire day is completely and utterly devoted to the search for small doses of pleasure, which you attempt to gather into large doses.

And that becomes your entire life is one large. Never-ending Chase.

And that will never end.

And you will never change.

And this is not reverse psychology, but I could not care less if you change.

It isn't about changing the person who changes changes back. It is about understanding as about realization.

And humans are not.

Wired, that way because of the societal conditioning to seek understanding. They are wired to seek prescriptions and how to's and methods and techniques and five-step plans, and the latest hacks from Silicon Valley gurus and reading the latest books about stoicism and the self important philosophical nonsense that everyone wants you to read. And it is just intellectualism in various forms. No one ever gets anywhere doing that.

Try to get better so that they can go to cocktail parties and demonstrate how many books they read and how intellectual they are, how smart they are, and see if they can rattle off a few new quotes that they have read. So that they will gain social standing in the social environment and that will never change because the human is subservient to his own ego. He's an egoist. He seek only to

Prolong, and adorned his persona.

And because these things are so deep within the human being.

The possibility of that going away is basically zero.

There may be one, individual may be one.

And that to be honest, that one that's out there or two or four.

Are very unlikely to have found serendipitously this podcast.

So therefore, there are none.

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Hello. Thanks for your time. I just wanted to ask if you think that you have wasted your life.

Hi couple. I realized that I've pasted my life and I am wasting my life. I want to stop doing this. I wouldn't ask you how, but I feel that I have I sometimes feel that I have a

Speak about because I your words hit me it resonates with me deeply. So there must be some DNA between but I'm still wasting my life. I sometimes get inspired

but it

just eventually does not like really last. So is there a refused? Is there a way that we can not stop that we can stop wasting our life.

There's no way his

This is when the desire to stop wasting it becomes or Rises to a fever pitch, you know? One on one has to understand the depth of his conditioning. One has to understand the depths of their longings for societal things without immediately jumping towards the idea of leaving the world are leaving Society moving to a cave. It's this is choirs like everything, it requires a sincerity seriousness.

The matured, the maturity lies in understanding and understanding has nothing to do with blaming oneself or saying that one is wrong or bad. And therefore one is wasting their life. It has nothing to do with outrage and has everything to do with understanding why it is and how that's so that that mature individual who seeks to truly understand is the one who has a

Out of the clients that you've worked with. Do you think that their

Readiness for truth was more about them and their DNA, or was it more of a result of their exposure to you?

I mean, I can't I can't really answer that for anyone. I mean the individual themselves must answer that question, but typically what happens is that you know, the things intersections between people happen for a reason and some Universal reason that, you know, it's difficult to say with certainty. But the individual who tends to resonate with my words, he tends to be an

Jewell, who is willing, or has a willingness, or has always had a willingness to Coco against the grain of society and tends to be an individual who has demonstrated seriousness in other parts of their life such as their career and, you know, becoming, you know, highly successful, which tends to be the individual who I work with because those individuals have already demonstrated that level of sincerity in their life and seriousness to where they have gone through many

Things in order to achieve, you know, fairly high level things in their life. And so a person who already has demonstrated that in other parts of their life mean that they have it within them. And so whatever, for whatever reason, they happen to resonate with the words and then things begin to, I don't know what take takes place from there and doesn't take place from there. There's never really an attempt on my part, to change them or anything.

But it's, but it's it's a very organic thing. I will say it that way as opposed to a, you know, for story, prescriptive type of thing, but it is, it is for the rarest individual. It is for the most serious individual who does not make excuses about time or money, or it's too deep or whatever. It may be, excused makers of dime, a

He said, the do we have any control over these things? Do these things happen to us? Or can we do something?

I don't know what you mean by these things.

Finding truth.

I don't know what you mean by control.

In the sense can be can we do things like in the sense work towards it? No.

Logger to very colloquial and societal concept to work towards something. No, there's no homework. You can do. You cannot work towards it, but you can have an exposure to it. But even exposing yourself to it, if you think that I'm going to expose myself and then look over every corner, look behind your shoulder. Five minutes to see if it has come, that isn't sincere. The individual who comes to me is the individual who has no choice.

Hey, couple, do you believe that the feeling of having wasted? One's life is somewhat driven by fear of missing out and rather. It is important to look within and see what? Just as images and appreciate. What you've already accomplished or doing.

Thank you.

No, I don't believe in any of those things and I don't think there was no real questions. They were just what you believe and you're looking for confirmation and permission.

What can you do when educating a child to increase his chances of not wasting his life? The most important benefit for any child is to be around the person? Who is devoted to truth.

I got bill. So my question to you is a little similar to what the last week erised suppose I Were Your Child. So what conditioning or what thought process would you

have given me that? I see through

things and I would do anything. It is things things, do not happen by giving someone something. There is nothing anyone can give to anyone.

it's what it's worth exudes from someone and what someone exudes, those are the things that others are there pick up on or

What is the fundamental reason? Their deepest root cause behind on seriousness?

I don't know why 11 becomes serious and why big majority remain on serious? I'm not sure it just if it's just a fundamental DNA. Hi, I don't know this definitively but perhaps, you know, one could entertain the possibility.

That an individual who demonstrates seriousness and other way other endeavors almost has the DNA for it. They just they just tend to look deeply into things. They tend not to be cosmetic Chasers and you know where that comes from. I don't know.

Hello, Sid.

I was going to ask you about someone. Like you said, you have certain clients that are high level and they're very serious. They make a lot of money.

Surely. These are people that are doing the absolute most, to manage their time and make utilize the

most of their time. So, would you also

preached? The same message to them that they have wasted their life, even if they're in the top 1% of their industry

and they're considered sharks or work horses in that industry.

Would you still give the same message to them like they wasted their entire

life? Well, successes and everything. So the wasting of someone someone at least to become a success has utilized X percent of their talent as opposed to someone else who basically goes to bars every night and drinks alcohol and socializes with his beard ink of drinking friends. I mean, that's just a waste that just a waste of oxygen that isn't even a human being. He's just an insect.

T'. So someone who actually uses his talent to some degree has wasted obviously less of his life. But but I would say yes. The majority almost everyone waste their life because they do not look deeply into the ways in which they are conditioned. They do not look into the direction of truth because the the pull and the attraction towards prescription and

Doing an acting and actionable things, and spirituality and self-help, you know, have an individual who completely turn his back on everything. Not not not as if, in a prescriptive way, not because it definitely should or because I think it's good. But because they genuinely see The Emptiness of everything, even their own opinions of things. That's just a rare human, you know, rare humans are rare, so it's the rarest.

And who does not who not only becomes a success and its success isn't even required. But not only one who becomes a success, but one who actually moved in the direction of conquering

Hello, what would you say to people that maybe they feel that they're interested in something and are pursuing it, or they feel that that is the thing they want. But then it evaporates like an illusion and then it's something else. Like,

of course. I thought that's everyone's experience. You must be new here. That's everyone's experience. Everyone's a chaser. Everyone's a pleasure Chaser, everyone's

For one dose after another, haha, hehe with their stupid friends, socialisation social media, this and that Instagram, whatever it may be. That's what everybody does. No one know, no one gets fulfillment in anything. So what you're saying is basically, you know, knowledge 101. That's what everybody does. So I wouldn't say anything to anybody, it is, you know, you being new to this your if you wish not that you should. But your best sitting in the

Number scada that I thank you for having me to the stage. So I just wanted to clarify when you see wasted. Do you basically mean that a person who lives life in a conditioned way, in a program way living, by society's Narrative of low expectations.

I didn't hear a question.

Oh, can you hear me

I heard you but I need a question.

No, I'm wondering your definition of wasted. When you say have you

wasted you're wasted wasted and wasted in every sense of the word like the trash. You take it on Tuesdays.

Hi, thanks for giving me the chance to speak. I just want to ask a question for me. Like, I'm very comfortable with the idea of wasting my life, just to find out what is still seeking words through.

So, I've been experimenting my thought process recently. I've been journaling a lot. I'd like to

do meditation or not. That I'm trying to explore myself in a deeper sense. Trying to find like Patty.

Is of behavior, like how I am reacting the wrong cell, certain things. So it's like a self-discovery journey for me,

and I found out like, I am more of an

egomaniac

person, like, I care more. I'm not, I'm talking about like ego and a sense of Pride bomb talking about ego.

Like I Define this world more Anna physical.

So, what you're gonna do with your question,

I'm just trying to ask like,

hey, I

see my strengths and weaknesses. But like if I see my strengths and weaknesses and I just see that the side that I'm leaning on is it's not good like seeing the world as a materialistic thing and I'm trying to focus more on

spirituals again. I like no, I don't. I don't hear a quiet. I hear a diet, right? I don't hear a question. What's your question? All right.

I'm just trying to explain. Okay.

I'm sorry. I'm just trying

like if I embrace my weaknesses.

Is, is

that like hey, I'm not wasting my life as I just embraced it within that. There is no rule and there's no definition. If you think you're wasting it or you don't think you're wasting it. That's up to you. It really is a sincere examination and a self-expressed honesty as to whether one is, and even if you're honest with yourself, you don't get points for being honest either. So either, you know, any given individual will be horrified by the fact that he's wasting his life.

And therefore he will move towards truth that. Like I said, will be one in a hundred million and the rest are have no personal choice. There's no chance. So there's no there's no me telling you that what you just said. No that's wrong. You shouldn't do that. You're wasting your life. You need to do something else, you know, whatever. If you feel like doing that and that's what your move to do that, that's what your move to do when there's no

Hello couple. Thank you in the verification that you are that individual that rare individual. How do you know?

Went to start. But say that they say that you have been.

But your mind has been tricking you into the illusion that it is society and that you need to accomplish all the things that Society wants to once you too. How do you know or how do you decipher that balance? Where?

What you need to move forward?

Welcome balance. I mean, there's no time if whatever there's no like you should begin on Thursday, you begin because you have no choice but to begin.

In fact, it isn't a before and an after when the beginning happens. Typically the beginning has happened a long time ago with individuals who have the DNA forward. They when they look back at their lives. They see that they've always sort of been moving in that direction. There isn't isn't just out of the blue. One day. They decide is and a conscious decision. So that human beings tend to be more attracted to societal things in society at large. So if

Wherever ones sincerity move in the direction of b a truth or Society than that's, that's where it moves. But there's no. How do I know when to begin?

Thank you.

I'd Cielo a very quick question is a life based on what your routine thing isn't life focused on leaving a legacy for your children and grandchildren a waste. Enjoy.

I like the answer your question, but you're not ready for the answer because your question is actually a comment in the form of a question. You believe that it is based upon Legacy. Therefore, whatever I say won't have any meaning to you.

So I see when you see that, I've wasted my life and that creates a disturbance in me. It does happen multiple times earlier on what usually ends up happening, is I pick up Pursuit which I think is a noble Pursuit. Now I end up spending a lot of time and energy into it and after some time, I realized that is also empty. It's not like this bad or good. It's not giving me whatever. I imagine, it will give me later.

And I'm at this point where I see that all of the things that I can put.

Pursue right now, whether it was my career skill art, good

things, but it does not give me that thing that I'm looking for. It's always something is missing at the end and now there's this disturbance and I go back to my old habits because at least they provide me with her destruction, where I don't have to be

thinking about different things because the p, what's your question?

Which request?

So I realize there's a disturbance inside of me and I see no Pursuit that will fulfill it from now. Now I'm stuck, if there was something I was only going to maybe I'll be better in my career. I will follow philosophy and figure this out.

At least I would have gotten a path to channel. You're not, you're not you're going on and on, what's your question? What do I do from here? What can I, how do I get outta me? Do? There's nothing to do?

The only fulfillment is

I can feel. My question is what happens when we abolish the self-image.

That's just a window dressing question because no matter what I say to you. It will not be in your experience. Therefore. It'll just be descriptive words that they will have any meaning.

Hike appeal. I've felt the desperation that you've described when I realized that everything in my life was false and I don't and I think I know you know what I'm talking about. I think you wrote about it with the other world where everything was based on lies. And I felt that desperation to for freedom, but then disappear and then it came back and then it

disappeared

and I guess

it feels as if I end up defaulting.

Back toward the desire for

pleasure. So I think there's

Is is the understanding that I'm missing? That

is is it starting to go from intellectual to visceral and it's not airtight visceral. Is that the reason why the desperation doesn't stay

Well, they desire for the desire for society and prescriptions and the chases is still very strong. Therefore. You will always take president, just a matter of time before that tide rushes back in after a few moments.

Hi, thanks for having me on stage. My question is once you have reached a level of introspection that allows you to realize that you have undergone societal programming, that's LED you to the point of wasting your life is arriving at this point. Something that should elicit

Joy sadness within you or is knowing that you've truly arrived at this point, knowing that there is no way that you should feel. But rather that getting to that point is just

The experience in and of itself. I hope that

makes. So, this is a very mature question and quite honestly by the Cadence of your speech with the very beginning of your sentence. I could tell, I could sense the maturity and the sincerity in your question. So I will answer it. It doesn't it? There is no, there's no predefined way. That one should or should not feel and quite honestly, even if one did feel Joy, The Joy isn't the reason to do it.

It becomes its own Chase. It really is rather that if, if one finds himself, come repeatedly returning to the examining of the ways in which they have wasted their life, and the ways in which they have to sign in societally programmed, the very fact that they keep returning to that demonstrates for whatever reason and an inner desire to truly want to look into that.

Which demonstrates further a desire to perhaps move towards

Thank you. Thanks for having me out. I'll tell you. I've arrived at places in my craft. I

have been unimaginable for meet my past, but I continue to like devote myself to my art,

but I noticed that time something that prevents me from reaching My ultimate arrival, and a place where I see myself.

Is it true that time is something that limits our rival?

In my experience, I've noticed that things have been extremely perfect but it

requires patience, but I'm not

being patient. It is just the patients, but that time is something that deeply bothers me as, as well. What, what limits would limits arrival is the realization of the truths that need to be realized in order to arrive at that arrival.

And if those are not realized, it doesn't matter how long you wait.

Hey a couple. Thank you very much. I've listened to a lot of your content and

I feel like I resonate with it a lot. But the more I think about it the more lonely. It feels the more separated. I seem to be from the society like you say, Everything? Feels dumb, stupid. All Pursuits are rather too simple or true useless. Is this something that you see with others too?

So if

Society is full of stupid people who are not seeking truth.

And you are seeking truth.

Why would you feel anything but isolated from that? Why would you not feel anything? But isolated from that

back up in, thank you so much. Your words have helped me a lot. My question is also kind of the same as the last question. How do you deal with? When you

realized, there is no dealing with anything.

Isida,

I hope I'm horrible. So my question is in the pursuit of Truth. There are other things. Like, you know, you want to get independent. And then there is your the Society of want to lick

prioritises, you to get independent first. So I like is getting independent

part of, you know, in The Pursuit Of Truth.

For every facet of Life as a truth.

Truth is not truth is the only practical thing there is so every part of one's life. Every every topic one pursues. Every discipline one, pursues every facet of his life has certain truths and the rest are

So in some ways, it's an absolute honor to be in the room with you think so. Yeah.

Yeah, I've been looking for you for my for my entire life. I've started to realize that at the beginning of the year and it's absolutely been a very transformative process, and I've absolutely nothing but gratitude for you.

And I absolutely realized that there's absolutely nothing that literally nothing that I want except for arriving at tooth and it just changed my come like everything my entire Outlook. There isn't a second of the day and even while asleep.

That goes by without me Examining, without me seeing my mind without me seeing that everything is driven by ego without me seeing that every Pursuits doing my pleasure. It's just changed everything that literally just completely everything. So my questions are sent us around, you wouldn't a discourse about the true value of where the. And I also absolutely see that basically the true value of wealth, just lies and buying

Dominance of one's mind as you've also correctly said. So my question is just

in order to

Learn more perspective, perhaps, on the things you fall out, for example, on the survivors and all the other topics. Yeah, I guess the only question is, I'm a student. And I guess the only path to really is to make make the millions in order to gain access to a material. I mean, I'm at the point. I would swim across the Atlantic Ocean basically to just get more exposure to all

It's of your work,

you know, in all, in all honesty. I try. I do my best to provide basically hundreds and hundreds of hours of content for, you know, for individuals to who, you know, who obviously, you know, will will not, you know, have the opportunity to consult with me. And so, and you know, if those things are beneficial than they are and if they're not, then they're not but

It's I can only be in so many places and I can only speak with so many people. So, all of the content that I have out there is certainly, you know, that, you know, that the free stuff that's out there from the discourses to the various podcast interviews and what you know, what's out there, those things may be may be of help to you. But beyond that I'm not, you know, I'm not sure what else I can do,

but you know, everything, you know, absolutely. I mean I've

At every public discourse, everything like letter by letter and I'm extremely. Glad for that. Is that if there's nothing I've ever learned in my life that it's of such immense value. And

I'm lucky. I'm glad I'm glad I'm glad I'm glad it resonated with you and it looks like, you know, you have a sincerity to to pursue truth, which quite honestly you it's fairly clear that you've already embarked upon that path and, you know, you're literally won't be

Be me, but it'll be your sincerity which continues to guide your way. So good luck with

Hello, I wanted to ask you. What is the

difference between

what I believe his name is Mac Honnold. The individual who had the solo climbing without a rope. What's the difference between what he set out to achieve? Obviously was a great feat, but what's the difference between that and any old experience,

Do the Purity with which he pursued the The Craft?

Hello, so my question is about basically, you know, in today's day and age

everybody is so

hyperstimulated people have very short attention spans.

It seems like, you know, people don't value the morality moral values, as much as they used to, in previous eras.

How can we go back to the age old pirate to the age of upon? Part of there's no wheel? There's no way.

But you know, we as insincerity and I can tell by your response that you're not ready for this

Is there a way for me to know?

Without any doubt that I am on a path of

You know one who is desperately desirous to know that means that they desperately desire to know. Truth. If one if one really wants to know if they are on the path to truth, then the very fact that they really want to know demonstrates that there's a deep desire there. So that question sort of answers itself.

Hi, dr. Gupta. I don't have a Pursuits for not really pursuing happiness. And I don't see any purpose in life, but I see myself naturally being drawn to things that keep my attention that are stimulating, pleasure

chasing.

And so I see that my life is being wasted and there's nothing that I can.

You about that, but

the reason that I'm letting myself just waste my life is because at some level that's okay with me right that that it's fine with me that I'm wasting my life, but I may not feel that

way in 30 years or 50 years when I'm close to my

deathbed. Is there any

further deeper truths than that or is that just naturally how? Well, honestly, what I mean?

What you have expressed its sincerity, what you have expressed. As honesty when everything that you have, just expressed demonstrate and insight into your own condition and and where you are. And as ironic as it may seem, if there is going to be truth that arises within you or for the desire to seek it, it is going to arise precisely from such plain honesty.

Hello, if one has embarked upon Truth for quite some time and has the financial means to be more, I guess removed from society.

Wouldn't that be a logical path to take? Given that Society is untruth,

if, if that's what they truly feel in their bones. It wouldn't be a prescriptive thing, right? That that's the right thing to do, or good thing to do, really. It is a self-generated and self-motivated act to, to do that which results from

One's deep down recognition that, that is the case as opposed to any type of compulsion, or, or pressure that is put on that person by someone else, in any shape, or fashion. So long as is 100% arising. Truly from you, then then there's, there's no insincerity in it. Thank you.

I've listed all my life. I've worked very hard for many years, but I but I haven't got anything. Good, any result. I'm unbelievable. Unlucky. Person in room at my question. Is that how I can change my ill-fate. Thank you.

What do you

Being so

I don't know what that

I based My All My Life by working so hard but I was unsex unsuccessful. I am an unsuccessful percent. So I do know how to change my

fate when your question is how to become successful man. That's your question. So it sounds like

no, it's just a by lock, by lock. I'm not successful everything. Everything shows that I

To be successful, but suddenly something happened and change everything. For example, I burn one night before my exam. I went for something but I forget to bring my lucky appeals and everything. I go forward. One exam and computer crash. It's happened.

So we're talking about how to become a success.

No, I think it's locked. It's not about success only. It's

long, your love, but your unluckiness is because you were unlucky at becoming successful.

Yes.

The when you were asking how to become a

Yes, you're right.

Okay, so that Barry recognition.

Is what perhaps you need to understand at this moment. So the question is in camouflaged by other things that aren't true. You must be more strict the question down to its Bare Bones to ask what you really want to ask. And despite your repeated objections to the fact that you were seeking a path of 60 which isn't wrong. But simply your rejection. That that's what you were. Truly seeking is what you have learned

Hello again. I have a question in my path of truth. I keep self-mutilating myself because every time I think of moving forward, I feel like the when I call it the that McLaren Avatar that wants to come out of me to move forward towards the truth. It doesn't feel right. So I keep going back to the same previous default that

Sit up, and I don't know how to get out of this Loop.

And it's self-mutilation after self motivation as a self motivation of my Persona because there is no,

there's no knows what a self-mutilation mean, as you describe

Like everything is like the the details of whenever I tried to continue on my path is like, okay this there is not, I don't know if it's depression at this point that I'm getting at or if it is.

It just doesn't feel like truth. And because it doesn't feel like truth. I don't pursue it further.

And I'm stuck in that Loop.

the mind is a very complex thing. And if one is seeking truth, then they will seek the truth of their predicament. They won't try to get out of it. They won't try to seek relief.

That isn't a bad thing or a good thing. The truth is a recognition of where one is that is truth in itself as opposed to trying to seek to run away from it, but facing it isn't truth either.

It is the pursuit of truth about the situation. That one is in that is practical and Truth is nothing. If not practical.

Hmm. What do you do with the guilt and regret that erases when you're on the path to seek the truth, you analyze your past behaviors and additions you have made and sometimes guilt and

regret. There is nothing to do about it.

I can't you just accept what you have done. And no, no, no, I did not say except.

Accepting the doing.

Hello, sir. I wanted to ask how to find meaning in life. Where do we