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On Purpose with Jay Shetty
The Only Way To Inspire Change in Your Friends And Family
The Only Way To Inspire Change in Your Friends And Family

The Only Way To Inspire Change in Your Friends And Family

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Jay Shetty, Vishen Lakhiani
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Nov 15, 2019
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Hey everyone, welcome back to you on purpose. Thank you so much for being here. By the way. I just wanted to let you know we are at 9800 reviews on the podcast. It would mean so much to me if we can get to 10,000 by the end of this week. It would be amazing because I love reading them. I love engaging with them. I love seeing the incredible meaningful lessons and nuggets of wisdom that you're all gaining from these episodes and when you leave a review, it means so much to me, but it means so much to new listeners and we are connecting with new.
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Listeners every single week. Like I know that there are new people downloading the podcast from different countries every single week and I just want to say a huge thank you to each and every one of you that has subscribed if you haven't make sure you do and I want to say thank you to each of you that has left a review. If you haven't it would mean the world to me. If you take 2 minutes actually would take 20 seconds to just leave a review it would be amazing. Now today's episode is another behind the scenes and I'm excited for this because I know you've been loving this.
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Is almost Windows into my life qas with people real people at events and often asking the questions that you really want and that's what I love about people asking questions at events. Because when you ask a question, you don't just help yourself you help another hundred thousand million people because there are another hundred thousand million people thinking the exact same thing as you so anyone who asks a question. I'm so grateful to each and every one of you and today's episode is a behind the
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Scenes from her event that I did at Mindvalley and many of you know, I'm friends with vision lucky. Oniy who's the CEO and founder of Mindvalley a really good friend a really cool guy and his team are awesome abs he loved Miriam and a guitar and kadhi that they're unbelievable and I was invited to speak at this event in La where they had a Q&A with their audience and we just literally took questions from everyone. The questions were amazing. There were questions about family and you know being in relationships with someone isn't spiritual someone
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Isn't about personal growth and how you deal with that. There were questions about how we can go deep in our own practices and habits. They were questions about my personal life and things that I love and I'm fascinated by so I can't wait for you to hear this podcast.
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Here we go.
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Alrighty, so Jay Shetty has you know out of some 200 speakers last year in Mindvalley was awarded based on audience data as the best speaker at Mindvalley across all seminars all festivals all events for the entire year 2018. But what is also really wonderful to say about Jay is that in today's world and this is something that lights me up in today's world the number one personality on Facebook.
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Is not a Kardashian or a politician it is Jay Shetty among.
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A monk from a monk who makes wisdom go viral Jay share these videos have been viewed 4 billion times 4 billion times, right? But and this is since he started in in 2016 January 2016, but here's the crazy thing.
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Three billion of that 4 billion happen in just the last 12 months, and he his growth is exponential and growing and he perhaps more than almost anyone else. I personally know is helping create a world where wisdom becomes viral and something that you really want to consume Jake welcome to Mindvalley. Again. Thank you for sharing. Thank you so much.
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Thank you to all of you. I'm so grateful. Thank you.
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I'm so grateful in touch to be here. Thank you for the opportunity vision and thank you to all of you for being here as well. Thank you for being here when you could be anywhere in the world you chose to be sitting on that seat.
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So let's start with the opening question. Jay Cooke you learn so much and you just got back from meditating in India in an ashram, you know, you're constantly evolving yourself. What would be some words of advice? You would give to the people in this room.
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That's a big question.
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So I take out 21 to 30 days every year to go and live back with the monks where I used to live in India. So I lived as a monk for three years and every day. I made it a priority to continue my meditation practice, which is currently two hours a day. It's been that way for the last 13 years. It's been the Bedrock and foundation on my life. So to that very big question their Vision. Honestly, my first piece of advice would be finding your daily rituals finding your daily habits finding your
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Practices that act as the foundation because we're living in such a busy hectic crazy times how many of you know that you have a schedule and still half the things don't happen on that schedule right anyone ever been in that position or how many of you go through that process where you start wanting something really educational on YouTube and then two videos later you're watching something about Justin Bieber's mom. Right and it's like and then and then you like how did I get out of there get there? Like how did how did that happen and and you end up?
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Up getting lost in this world. And so whether it's in a small way of getting lost through the content, you know, Rabbit Hole or whether it's getting lost by getting distracted from what's really meaningful to you for me refining my intentions on a daily. Basis is one of my favorite favorite habits. And so what I do every day is our look at the plethora of options that I have available all of the things whether it's deals ideas thoughts projects offers, whatever it is.
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And on top of all of them are right down why I would do that.
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And if the reason is often ego Pride Envy competition jealousy and sometimes it's compassion Lovejoy passion purpose meaning fulfillment.
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And so what I like to do is I like to refine my intentions which I classes seeds and weeds every day. So I want to plant more seeds in the garden. My life seeds are things that are like compassion love purpose fulfillment. Meaning Joy service and weeds are when we do things out of ego Envy competition. And so every day I'm plucking out the weeds out of my life. I'm trying to plant more seeds how many of you want to be gardeners with me?
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And I do that every day because it's so easy for me to confuse the weeds as seeds.
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It's so often that I've let ego grow. So strong inside of me and took me forever to notice that was a weed. So I have to do every day. So that's one of my biggest piece of advice. I do every single day. It's made a huge difference in making sure I make the right choices the right decisions with people places and projects that I'm involved in when you were find the intention and it gets purer and purer and purer and other wherever fully pure but it gets purer and purer and purer. You just see magic happen around you so many things will open up things that you never imagined. So you know that
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Your question, but it does in and out just opens up. So many other questions said you get you try to get your intention purer and purer and it sounds to me like what you're saying is you're going for the feeling that it's giving you Joy Bliss passion, right? How far ahead are you looking are you looking at your intentions for a day for a week for a month for a year?
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I look at intentions from places that I go people that I spend time with and projects that I'm involved in. So in every one of
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Those areas and that includes everything from what I'm doing right now by being here. So I'm with all of you. So I planted a seed of an intention that I wanted to come here to be of service to all of you all the way through to what do I want to be doing in 12 months. I usually don't make plans for longer than 12 months because the world changes so fast and everything else. So that's usually as far ahead I think of but you know my vision do you
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ever get intentions like binge watch Game of Thrones 24 hours straight and then judge yourself for having that intention.
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So I was
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Woman that I was coaching yesterday and they said to me says Jay be real with me, right? You know, everyone always likes us. I be real with me. Like don't give me the munch on say, you know, it's only my sister always says we don't go munch on me. Jay said it like, you know, I don't want to hear another video. My my want my wife and my sister do that often to me. So someone asked me yesterday like be real with me. Like what do you do when you just want to you know, let go. So the honest answer is I grew up in London. I'm a huge soccer fan or real football
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and and
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Yes, finally, someone says it on our stage. I've never understood you Americans. It's not
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I absolutely loved football. And my favorite thing to do is play Playstation with my buddies and play FIFA. I can do that for hours and hours and hours and I'm pretty good too. So if anyone wants to play me a game of FIFA moves up, but that's yeah, I do I do get that and that's probably one of the there's two things I love in that sort of in that category. It's playing closer some playing FIFA.
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Second is movies. I'm a huge fan of movies. I'm a huge fan of Christopher Nolan specifically because of the stories that he writes in the movies he brings to life. So I love movies that helped me learn and have messages inside them because I believe that movies have the power to shift culture and shift conversation. So I'm fascinated by the power of media and movies. So I love consuming that content because it gives me more ideas and inspiration and I truly believe that we are defined by the stories. We tell ourselves. So when we see new store,
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Tory's through movies and media. I see changes in culture happening fee for I can't justify some of that is just after that. I just have to
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take so we want to keep the questions spiritual and deep but also real yeah, I like I like you just insulted American Center in the football is football.
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You say you spend 28 days of the year in an ashram in India? Yes. Okay, and you're like one of the most like you're becoming one of the most famous teachers on the planet.
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What do you do with that? Ashram? Do you check Facebook or Instagram while you're
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there? Good question. So I read an incredible study that changed the way I create and think and it said that the human mind can't be logical and creative at the same time. How many of you have ever walked from a highly creative brainstorm where you were filled with passion and then had to talk about numbers and business and right. It's tough right anyone ever found that quite difficult. It's quite challenging.
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Bring in the mines like trying to run from one side of the brain for the other side of the brain. So what I do is I create in depth. So I got really deep into my creation and then I got really deep into everything else that I have to do. So before I went to India, I created my content in advance. And so when I was in India, I was able to really switch off. So the beauty of being able to be in India for 21 or 30 days or wherever I am in the world for that matter and then not having to think of creativity as stress or pressure on able to do creativity as a form of passion and service.
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So and so when I was in India, I was able to not look at Instagram. I was able to not look at face work. I was able to completely switch off for 21 days. When I was there earlier in January and I started my year in the way I wanted to so I was meditating for 8 hours a day or spending time with my teachers who are mind-blowing and incredible and trying to learn from them and taking knowledge and wisdom from them and continuously praying to be of more service this year and make a difference this year. So that's how I chose to spend my genuine. I had so many people saying to me they were just like Jay, it's January things are going well in your career.
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How can you take 21 days off right that pressure that noise like things are going good for you? How can you take time off? How's that things are going good because I'm doing this right like, you know, I had one of my teachers that is kept saying to me for years he goes if you want to move 3 steps forward you have to go three steps deep. And so if I'm not going forward, I know it's because I haven't gone deep. So for me, that's a big priority for me and that's what I try and do and I'm I try to do that every day, but I also believe in immersive experiences, so
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A lot of us today, we live in this world, which is like 10 minutes a day do it for 10 minutes a day. Everything will be great. And that is great. There's nothing wrong with that. But imagine you spent with a boy or a girl your partner whoever it was something that you just started dating imagine. You spent 10 minutes a day with them. How long would it take you to figure out whether you wanted to fall in love with him or not?
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Probably a long
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time. And so when you go immersive if you spend a weekend away with someone, you know, whether you like them or not and meditation mindfulness. All these habits are the same the more you immerse yourself the more you get an experience that stays with you the more that you can live with that experience and keep going back to it for 10 minutes a day. So I really believe in immersive experiences. I love the 10 minutes a day advice, but I also deeply believe in having and deep immersive.
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Absorbed experience that completely takes over your whole body mind and soul and then you have to carry that forever. So I try and do that once a year
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that's amazing. Beautifully said Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you.
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So so you're a monk. I used to be I'm married now. Okay, but you still go back to multitude or whatever they call it. Yeah one school. Yeah, so you're writing titude like monk refresher course.
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So the monks, you know, very good at branding is even
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so when you're there hanging out with these other monks do they like asked you to teach them how to do Instagram or like like what how do other monks relate to you when you go back to the Usher?
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One of the things I love to be with the monks again is that they don't care like they have no idea ende. They have no desire. They don't want to learn anything about what I'm up to and I love that because I get to switch off from that identity to and it's beautiful to be able to let go of every identity that you've taken on and then just be and so when I go there and I were able to remove
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any identity that is attached to my ego any identity that's attached to who I think I've become Etc. It's it's nice to be humbled again. It's nice to be it's nice to be not noticed for a particular thing, but be dealt with in a human way in a completely human connection. So yeah. No, they don't they don't care about
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Instagram. So it's amazing. Now, I notice you have a tattoo on your neck I do and I noticed that there's even a Facebook group called. What is Jay shetty's tattoo. I'm serious. There's a Facebook group dedicated to his cell.
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That's how big this guy is getting soon. They'll be Facebook groups for your ankles your left thumb. It's gonna get weird JD with Fame. But what the hell is that
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tattoos? So it can we play and I'm gonna I'll tell the story about it. I got my first tattoo when I was 16 years old and I never asked my parents for permission. I went and got it came home. I was bleeding slightly and it happened to be on the same day. We had family visiting from India and for anyone who knows anything about Indian families, like respect to lie.
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Like elders and families. It's important. There's a good values but I walk in with my neck like half bleeding and others tattoo of my family. My mom is just like like, you know, she's completely shocked and my dad's like cover it up cover it out like trying to get me a college shirt. Anyway, so I used to be a huge fan of spoken word and rap music going up growing up. I've always loved language and words and so I was a huge fan of hip-hop and spoken word. So I have a fist holding a microphone on my neck because it used to be the logo
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The Source magazine in the 1990s, which is one of the biggest hip-hop magazines of its time and I remember getting it done at 16 and a lot of people like what's that on your neck and add some microphone and they'd be like, oh cool. What are you doing? I'd say I do spoken word and rap and they said oh you should perform at our club. So it was my card. It was my business card. It was my Brandy and and then I got my next tattoo 18. So I have on the back of my neck. I have dear God in calligraphy and then I have one here which is a Which is less seen and I don't think there's a Facebook group about it, but it's say
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Say it's a treble clef going to peacock feather. I've always loved the music having spirituality to an peacocks a beautiful beautiful animals that I got to see a lot and observe a lot when I was in India, so that was inspired by that. So those are my three tattoos no more. No, none of those hidden away.
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So we know I've never been asked about that
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stage. You're like how useful is this information to anyone? Are we a Mindvalley or we are tattoo parlor, I mean
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Yeah, no, but you know what? It's so nice to get to to also learn about the real you there's so much wisdom from Jay out there. We wanted to bring in some of your illness because I know you as a friend and you're like just epically cool. So we'd love to take some questions from the audience. Okay. Now here are the rules when we do panels like this. I try to make sure that the question that is asked is a question that is going to serve at least 70% of the people in the room. Okay. So we have a question for Jay raise your hand.
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And we have mic Runners ready. Let's start with Shaman durak. So, you know, one of the things that I wanted to ask because I want to get your viewpoint on it because in Shamanism we have this Viewpoint that spirituality is not separate from life. It's it means as someone whose spiritual even if they don't meditate or work with crystals are doing these things. It means they're willing to evolve. I want to know what your thought is about
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that. Yeah. I completely agree. I think that's beautiful and completely lines with me. I don't think see we look at everything.
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What can I learn and actually a half of learning in my opinion is really unlearning. Everyone already has the answer inside of them. You're not really learning anything new. You just want to get rid of all the bad lessons you learned and everyone has that so it's not so much about like, who is this person going from here to here? It's not really that it's like if someone going from here to here and for me one of the ways, I've always thought about is you can't take the world further than where you visited internally. So for me every
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person that were meeting already has that Journey right there and all you're asking them to do is look inwards as opposed to outwards. So no I completely agree with you and I think that's a beautiful point that you've shared and I think it's something nice for us to know so we don't judge and label people. We don't walk around think all those are spiritual people. Those are not spiritual people because yeah, we're all were all spiritual people and it's just that some are covered. It's like the sun's always out but often it's covered with the clouds rarely hear a bit more.
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Lately, but some it's the sun is always out. It's just get covered by the clouds and that's us we've just been covered and we get covered by those clouds and they Cloud our identity they Cloud our perception and so all we're doing for ourselves and others is clearing out the clouds and the more we do that for ourselves the more we can do it for others and the more we do it for others and we do it for
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ourselves and is meditation the only process that you use to clear out the clouds or is there other things that
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you explore I think meditation today is is a tool.
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And and it's a great tool in your tool kit, but it's really about how we're processing the whole time how we're living at the whole time outside of that. And so when I do 2 hours of meditation a day that my teachers would always say to me or what are you doing for? The other 22 hours, you're awake, right? That would always be the question. And so I read a study recently that said that men and women were asked either to sit alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes or if they didn't want to do that. They could give themselves an electric
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shock.
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Is it true study 60% of men chosen electric shock
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true story and 30%
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of women chosen electric shock. These are real normal people.
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And when they were asked why they did that they just said I don't think I can sit what am I going to do for 15 minutes? And so for me meditation is an important part of the cloud but it's also reflection introspection journaling the ability to have a connection that's deeper than you sitting down with people who can help you move the clouds because it's not always you on your own you need others to come in and help you do that. So it's multiple things. It's multiple things. I think meditations are a key facet of it, but not the not the be all and end all of it.
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So we noticed that you speak a lot about relationships a lot.
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Propulsion a few videos on relationships and I'm just going to be asked this question, but you did have training as a monk and normally when monks give advice on relationship. It's simply two words. Don't screw. Why where does that interest in relationships come
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from my Fascination comes from for relationships from having failed a lot of relationships. So growing up. I had countless relationships that didn't work out and I was always trying to learn like what is love me.
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I mean, what is love what is the ideal relationship? Why didn't that work out with that person etcetera. So I was constantly reflecting and then I became a monk obviously. I was celibate for three years and didn't have any relationships during that time and at that time a lot of people come and complain to me about their relationships. It's really funny when people do that. It's like you're not married you will know what to do with my life like that doesn't like that way so and I was always fascinated by that was I was getting are so many questions about relationships and I was like, well, I don't have any real life experience of figuring it.
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Well, so when I left and when I met my wife, and now that we've been together for six years and married for three years, I was always reflecting on why things do work with us and and the parts that we are challenged by and so for me, it's been a personal journey of growth. And so the videos I've made have been from personal lessons. I've learned from helping others coaching others and working on my own relationship. And that's the trifecta round. All my videos is I listen to someone who shares a challenge with me. So if you ever share a challenge with me you have to be
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Okay with the fact you may end up as a story in one of my videos. I'm just throwing it out there. The second thing I try and find is I try and find a scientific study to verify what I'm about to say as a solution and the third thing that I do is I try and find a piece of wisdom that's thousands of years old that also aligns with that. So for me, that's what I'm always looking for. And that's how I create my content because that way I can verify it through modern science. It's it's Timeless wisdom that's been true for thousands of years. And at the same time it's based on a real challenge that we're
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Going through that's amazing. That's amazing. I love how you just broke that down.
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Let's take an art a question from the audience if you have a question,
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so I have have these burning question. Yes. How do you relate how have you related to deep spiritual learnings? And at the same time being happy and content in the material world without going crazy
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interesting
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question.
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I think that's this point of spiritual training. So it's like when we when we are immature and our spiritual learning we're just starting out when you first learn the first everyone remember the first time they learned something and I'm like, I'm never talking to my family ever again, right because you because you learned a little bit and you go. Oh my god. I've been doing it all wrong. And now I can't talk to that person that can't ever go to that event again. And you start making all these big decisions based on something small that you've learned.
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And so I think in the beginning of our Lives because to a protect ourselves, which is a very normal desire and very good and very human. We think okay. I need to take care of this. So now I'm going to shut out from all of this. But as we grow we realized we can give more back and so one of the ways I've always thought about it is if you look at the ocean and you see someone drowning you want to help them.
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But if you go in too soon, and you're not strong enough, it's likely that you're going to get pulled in.
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And at that point it's easier to shout out to a lifeguard who can come along who's trained who's discipline who's committed who can go and make a difference and so for me in my life, I'm always looking at if I can't bring someone up I'm not going to spend time with them if they're going to pull me down and it's drawing that line for me. So if I've been ever scared about my spiritual rather than putting them down and going I'm not spending time with them because I'm pulling them down if I can't lift them up. Then I'm going to protect myself by not being dragged down, but if I can pull them up.
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Can't lift them up. Then that's when I'm able to go into that space and make an impact to make a difference and that line is really helped me not go crazy because I know I'm not doing it based on a judgment of them. I'm reflecting on my own abilities and floors and and the difference I can make and I'm taking a taking a stance. It's like someone asked me the other day. What is a complaint and we were talking about litter a complaint is you see a piece of trash on the floor and you got our La so dirty you've removed the agency that you can have an impact on that.
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That a statement is Odell is a bit dirty distractions. So I'm going to pick that up and throw it away right taking that responsibility. So when we irresponsible in our spiritual lives, we judge everyone and judge everything and we mature we start looking at through compassion empathy and connection and recognize. We were just there a few years ago. And that's the biggest anchor in my life is recognizing that I was addicted to and still am in different ways things that I don't believe a good for me spiritually.
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I was that I was that guy I was that kid, you know, he's taken a journey and someone had to believe in me. Someone had to invest in me. Someone had to reach their hand without being forced in and pulled me out and that allows me to continue to operate in the world. I hope that answers your
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question. Thank you. Thanks. So J when I saw you speak at wisdom 2.0 last weekend you got on stage and you quoted Martin Luther King. It was a quote on Justice love and a big team of this event has been MLK.
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His vision for Justice at the application of power to remove all obstacles of love. We just had Marianne Williamson take the stage here and talk about the importance of standing up of activism. What are your views on this?
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So I want to approach it from a from a slightly different angle as well.
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How many of you spend a lot of your days multitasking?
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Okay good. So a lot of us spend our time multitasking now studies show that only 2% of us actually able to multitask and when most people hear that they're like, yeah. I'm in that two percent. That's me. Right. I mean that 2% you're probably not I'm not because it's only two percent of the global population of the world multitasking is a myth and I find that as spiritual activists as conscious.
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Makers as change agents of the world, whatever you want to call yourself all of us one of the biggest mistakes we've seen and this was the quote that I shared in a thought for Martin Luther King that I've really held close to me is he said those who love peace need to learn to organize themselves as well as those who love war.
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Right those who love peace need to learn to organize themselves as well as those who love war IE people are trying to build destruction the world and distractions in the world are highly organized highly focused highly data-oriented highly strategic highly process driven. And so we have to be the same and when you spend time with vision who spent time with the Mindvalley team you realize their success is intuitive it is deep it is full of love, but it is also highly strategic it is also highly focused.
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Therefore it's effective. And so for me my plea to all of you and to myself is whatever we're going to do. Let's get really strategic about it. Let's bring sincerity and strategy together. Let's bring data and dynamism together. Let's bring intuition and insight together, right? Let's not let's not look beyond that and think all that stuff's going to work out because I intent my intentions nice write your intentions not been a run a mile, but it will help you run the marathon, but it's not going to run.
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On that mile that you need to do right now and so for me intention and action intention and attention, both of them are required and so my recommendation is whatever your dream is, whatever you inspired by whatever you think is going to have a positive impact on the world bring both to that. I don't settle for one of the other. Thank you and
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what you said so relates to Marianne Williamson who was here just two hours ago who said we need to wage peace as effectively as people wage war. So thank you for that connection a big theme of this event.
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Let's take another question from the
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audience. I hope I'm not boring you by the way.
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Hello? Yes. Hi Sunita here. So my question is, you know, we're all we go through the transformational Journey and it's very personal. We all start at different time line, but what if we are not able to Rally our loved ones into this journey, like for example your spouse and there is a fear of you outgrowing them and also your loved ones like your parents don't understand your journey your kids don't
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And your journey and your in a different path, how do we tackle this because I think it's important to bring them along. We can't just leave our relationships just because we are growing so I want to know how do we rally them onto this journey and open up possibilities for them as well. Absolutely. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, okay.
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So I think the biggest and hardest lesson is that our family and our friends will be more inspired by our example than our education. They're going to change when they see us change they're going to transform when they see us genuinely
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transform their
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there. They're not fascinated by how much you've learned and how much you know, and you can do a headstand now and you know, you can you know, you can do all these chakras and
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New dress and you know only Sanskrit words and you know, like that doesn't move the people. I've known you since you were young or I've known you before and that doesn't make an impact on him. What makes an impact in them is your example and your transformation and the amount you've changed. I remember this was really tough. So someone asked a similar question, but in a not as nicely as you did you you asked a very respectfully, but I remember when I was in when I was a monk one, this question was asked to my teacher and my teachers actually very compassionate.
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But this was one of his like heavier moments of like it was harsh but he was asked by someone in the crowd. They said to him. They said I'm trying so hard to you know, get my family to become spiritual and I'm doing everything and they don't listen to me and I'm trying really hard and it's not working and I'm like doing this I'm doing that. I'm doing this. I'm teaching them this I'm taking this and nothing's happening and my teacher said to them and they were a student of his and my teacher said to them they said he said tolerate them as I'm tolerating you.
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and I was like
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and so
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he actually said and he's super sweet like my teachers like 70 years old. He's been a monk for four years. He's amazing. He's one of the sweetest people in the world and he said that I was like, whoa. All right, you just got served. Yeah, like it was it was one of those moments and and you know, he's in robes and he says it really peacefully and everything but but the lesson I got from that the lesson I got from that is that someone's done that for us like someone's been patiently waiting.
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For me to transform for me to grow whether to Mentor a guide a guru a teacher whatever it is, like there's someone in our life in any transformation is also waiting for a support of its patience
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patience is a huge thing.
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You're never going to change someone or make them do something and half the time you just have to get out of the way that the part with patients that works is introduced them to who'd are inspired by don't try and be their inspiration.
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Right and I often say that even even in parenting situations, like when parents introduced their kids to people they're inspired by that will help the kids more than telling the kids to do the right thing and I've seen that happen so often when you when you look at sports as well, like even if your father was the best actor or bet sports player in the world or your mother was the best tennis player or perform or whatever it is. You're never impressed by your parents. Like we're really impressed by our family. When were younger we get gratitude later on but
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Early days, we don't have that, but we need to meet people. So if you can introduce your family to peopled are inspired by that's going to make a huge difference and the final one. Like I said at the start was just your example seeing you really changing your behavior change your language change your communication change that's going to give them the greatest confidence that you know, what she's doing is right. It works right the proofs in the pudding the proofs in seeing you actually make that change that answers your question.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much.
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You're all so kind.
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So what then what then is next for Jay Shetty? What are you focused on next or rather? Let me rephrase that question. What are some visions that you have for how you are going to serve the
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world today? Thank you. So when I started out I started this journey 13 years ago, but my video content only three years ago when I started out I never thought it would work. So I had a lot of limiting beliefs. I never thought it would get this far. I never believed that I thought I was going to work a
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Time job come home spend all my time editing videos and hopefully do this on the weekend. Like that's how I'd envisioned my life. So I'm very grateful for all of you who've ever watched liked or shared a video. I'm extremely touched that you've taken the time to even listen to me and I'm living a very blessed and fortunate life. So I come from a place of deep gratitude. And now that I've seen what's possible now, I'm the opposite way and I'm like, wow, I can't wait now like now, I'm really really excited one of my biggest
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beliefs
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And I read a study that inspired my beginning and it was that the most successful people in the world healthy wealthy or Wise choose education / entertainment and the most unsuccessful people in the world unhealthy unworthy or unwise choose entertainment over education. So I made it my mission in life.
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To build entertainment first content with an educational heart and I was thinking how do we make wisdom spread of the pace people One Entertainment? How do we meet people where they are so that they can come on a journey with us. How do we meet people because guess what hundreds of thousands of people will do courses millions of people come to events, but billions will always watch television and network TV and online programming. How do we meet people there? So a big part of my vision and goal
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To create conscious content that will sit on all the platforms that everyone binge-watch has will be extremely entertaining that you won't even know that it will have the most meaningful messages behind it will have the deepest meaningful messages
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hidden in the heart of that
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content.
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And what's happened on social media? And what I've been able to do on social media has proven to me that there's an opportunity for that right? I'm ready to study two weeks ago in ink magazine that showed the most viewed videos on social media and 2018 and the top 500 most viewed videos and social media in 2018 were all positive. They weren't news. They won politic. They were- they were positive videos and I could have been comedy. It could have been inspirational started giving anything. It doesn't have
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To be motivational inspiration was comedic but positive that was the stuff that was winning. And so for me that's step one step one is creating a world where all the entertainment we watch movies media everywhere is highly entertaining but has messages hidden behind it, which I think is already exists. And the second step is then working with Incredible folks like Mindvalley in creating the educational background to give people a journey to go on so once they're watching something. How did
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They then go on their personal journey of transformation. It's really giving a real pathway giving a real method which is non-judgmental non-sectarian universal and Timeless so that anyone can find it accessible and practical and that's a really key word actually making it really practical making it really easy not making it mystical so that people get lost but making it really practical so that people feel
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like their handheld.
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That would be the goal making wisdom. Go viral.
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Thank you Jay. Thank you. Thanks so much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you everyone. I'm so grateful. Thank you for listening. So give it up for Jay Shetty.
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Thank you so much for listening. I hope you enjoyed that episode. I'd love you to tag me and at this shin and at Mindvalley with any of the lessons that you've learned in this podcast. Thank you so much again, and I can't wait for you to
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check out next week's
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