Surprise Guest! Tiffany Haddish Tells Dave Asprey Her Shelter-in-Place Secrets

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I had a fun conversation with a surprise guest Tiffany haddish. You may already know there's a comedian or award-winning actress who stars in a bunch of different TV shows and big films. She also wrote the last black unicorn which is a memoir about her life Journey really fascinating set of discussions. I didn't even think I'd get a chance to talk to her. She's Sheltering in place during the coronavirus pandemic. We got to talk about what she's doing to stay healthy and sane gardening old-school self-help, including some of the greats like Wayne Dyer learn to do the splits.

Kind of made me jealous Tiffany does with humor whole lot of sass. It's an interview. You're really gonna want to see.

All right. Well, I'm even know where to get started. I mean, what's I don't know I think people would love to hear your story. Like how was it like when you were a kid and I think a lot of people listening maybe wouldn't understand that and then how did you have you become so successful? I mean you're you're a monster in your career right now.

Okay. I mean you're you're in What multiples series Emmys? I mean you've your your you've made it in a big way. So I want to know what what made that happened. Was it like at the start

in the start? I mean the start of my career started my life. The start of my life is amazing. I barely remember most of it and I don't remember. I mean it was cool. You know, I got two brothers two sisters.

Ders, my mom ended up with some brain damage and schizophrenia and I was in foster care and around a lot got to learn a lot about different people and how people live also learn how to you know maneuvering fit in but I was getting in a lot of trouble in school. I talk too much. So the social worker ended up coming up to the school because I was getting in trouble for talking so much doing I was just

Trying to be you know, I'm trying to be fine funny in make friends, but sometimes that's disruptive and bad behavior. So social worker came up there. She got tired coming up there. She was like, you know what you got two choices this summer you go to psychiatric therapy. Are you going to the Laugh Factory common camp and a lot of Comedy camp where I learned communication skills and and how to tell you know how to tell a joke when to tell a joke, you know, and it was the first time that a man.

Man told me I was beautiful or smart or anything. But I do feel like something bad was going to happen. I felt safe.

Don't worry you when that

happened. I was like 15 about 3/16 or maybe I was 15 about you 16.

We're in the middle of being a teenager. Okay,

when you know, I was very impressionable. I was I was definitely I would like to think of myself as a semi follower whatever the cool girls doing. That's what

Let's do it. Now. Not even realize that. I was kind of a cool girl too. But in the process of everything I fell in love with stand-up comedy and I fell in love with performing and really the thing that makes me love both like performing and comedy the most is to see people smiling to hear their laughter. Like there's something about hearing people laugh that just brings my vibration my heart up, you know, and so

I have this belief that you know, if you laugh everyday you look young, you know more you laugh. I feel like the healthier you are mean, it's a good exercise. First of all, you got your organs working and everything. And so yeah, can you just make more friends can make people laugh? I feel like so yeah, I got into the stand up and then I stopped doing stand-up for a while and started working at the airline as a customer service agent, and I thought I was the best.

I ended up getting depressed and I ended up in psychiatric therapy and the therapist was like what makes you smile and makes you happy get a like hearing people laugh makes me happy and she was like, well, why don't you get back on stage? And so I started doing stand-up as a hobby. I'm just like I'm just try it out. And the first time I got to say somebody's like hey, can you do this event for us better be great. If you could come through and just just do like 10 minutes 10 15 minutes, and I was like,

Sure, I guess there's like a pays 50 bucks. Like I'm there. I'm there, right? Yep it on stage. I bunk. It's the worst performance ever horrible. The audience is heckling me. It was like a it was a convention or it was like a party. It was a lot of lesbians there. I didn't even this my first time ever being anything like that. I was like 22. I'm like what the hell is going on?

My boyfriend and it's you know, my man. That's my man

in your 22 and I don't need you grew up around a lot of like so you're pretty much like I've never met a lesbian that I know

math lesbian. Yeah, something like that. Okay.

Yeah where it's like part of that part of the group. Yeah.

I was I was I was wondering it was a little strange why there was no me and around but

Mmmm,

let's make it making dick jokes at a room full of women. Only probably is not the right call whether they're lesbian or not.

Anyway, well I'm depressed. That was horrible.

You paid me I'm doing this forever and it was 50

bucks. Okay, so so that and that was literally at

you. That's how I got into stand-up comedy and Performing and doing stand-up, you know, one of my friends that worked at the airline's she was friends with an agent and she's like, I'm looking I'm doing this thing big back comedy show and I'm looking for an attractive female comedians. There's no attract visit any attractive female Comics out there and

My friend to think that working with your she's like I know somebody her name is Tiffany. She's pretty cute and she does stand-up comedy. She's funny. She makes us laugh and that's kind of how I got that lady called me and you know, she became my agent for like ten years. She convince the others to take acting classes the convince me that you know, you want to make it in stand up you're gonna have to make it on TV so that you can put asses in the seats because if you can't put asses in the seats then nobody's ever going to come see you and you'll never make money at Stanford.

So then I start getting a little jobs on TV shows and stuff in my travels to a background work to and Trust velkan relationships and building friendships and you know getting people to see my talent in it here. I am stood a few really great breaks you get one or two real good and these only

take you under their wing like I'm finding the stuff that I'm doing in my career. There aren't that many people who do it at a certain level and and I

I want to announce the time you wouldn't guess that looking at me, but then I call someone who's like 30 years older than I am and I'm like hey, what do I do? And I have a few of those. Did you find that people? You know, the the old names in comedy or old names and TV like were they helpful where they hostile, you know, did did you did you have like a guardian angel somewhere who was helping you

I feel like every okay. So every like comedian is a very cliquish and it's like multiple clicks and I can go in pretty much into any click. I can meet anybody and what I've learned throughout my career so far as always ask for help always ask for it. Even if it's not help just advice for from people that have been doing it longer because they might have a way where you

Have to bump your head as much

right

and I didn't learn that really until Kevin Hart help me out and with some money to get an apartment, right because I was homeless at the time and I didn't ask for the help. He gave it to me when he found out. I was homeless but it's like get it together make a list of goals and start accomplishing those goals. And and that's pretty much how I've been living my life ever since that was like in 2005-2006. There's a long time ago.

Go

a conversation.

Okay animals from a conversation me because I was kind of I mean before then I was pretty prideful, you know had a lot of price. I don't want to tell people that I'm struggling or I don't want to tell people I was homeless I would make sure my nails they've done in my hair State done a leaf look nice so they couldn't tell that I don't know where to sleep. I'm sleeping in a gym so he figured it out the difference in my attitude.

And had a conversation with me and I just told them and so ever since then.

You know, I've been more open to asking my mentors or people that have been doing this for 20 plus more years than me. Hey, can you tell me about like what would you do in this situation? Do you know anybody that works over at this place? Do you think hey, you know any young good directors of family with this like I'm

always and they're helping

out and there are you know people that have knowledge are flattered when you ask them their advice on Sunday.

They want to help it's amazing right? You said communities are kind of

Mukesh, do you have to be mean to be a

Now I'm not mean I mean, I can't hit me. I can't you have to be able to have the ability to there you go. Right

dude, you

do not have to be mean at all. I don't think you have to be a nasty person and when I say nasty, I mean an attitude or the way to treat now but as far as how you behave with others, you don't have to be rude or mean say mean things, but some are some are

I just heard I think you have to have some kind of damage.

Yeah, some trauma is usually there with with the average comedian. I had a guy is nowhere near your level on my friend JP and we talked about that and like it actually it felt bad to go back like kind of making fun of each other because I don't I made it a point for last decade and not say bad things about people and I'm usually pretty good at that. There's a few people who are super douche bags where I still make an exception, but other than that,

And so when I tried to like do the colony thing with him, I was like, oh that's the kind of hurts my heart a little bit. Do you ever feel that? Like like if you say something mean to a Heckler we like I can't believe I just said that

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the gloves come off. All

right now just coming out of nowhere. Yeah. I think I have had those moments in life. I mean maybe once a month.

Am I am it's not me. It's my hormones. It's got it. Yeah, it's the parasites in my intestine if

it's their fault. Yeah, they do what they're going to do. Now. Let's talk about the pandemic your you know, your your at home. How are you

doing? Nice?

Well, you're you're looking all stylish as normal. I'm I look like I always do because I live in the middle of nowhere. So this is what I do the podcast so not much

that it looks like you're getting haircuts.

Shop is open or you doing

here. I just woke up like this and I had like the CEO Hawkeye when I was going to burning man. I said, hey, I want to look like I have a mohawk, but I have to look like a CEO and I'm done. So they Buzz the sides of this is a true story and I just kept it that way so I can keep buzzing those until the top gets it into a mullet and then I'm screwed

what it's going on

with with food where you are. I know we have these food deserts in the parts of town. You can get more food. I mean you're in the LA greater area, so certainly you can drive around but

Lots of parts of the country you normally shop at you know, whatever is in your in your neighborhood. What's going on where you

are? So where I'm at. I'm in South district and it is I mean, I'm not having a hard time with food personally because I keep food in the freezer and I have a garden so I can eat out of that everyday nice. But as far as the grocery store goes out like I went

Like a week ago, maybe a week and a half ago and that the grocery store on Crunchwrap was closed and then I was like dang why is grocery store closed middle of the neighborhood a thing. I got it's like a app for our Hood it was saying that the grocery store was closed because someone was diagnosed with the virus there and they were cleaning the whole thing and then they would reopen it in like a day or so and I was like dang that's messed up because I

Wanted to get what he wanted to get started going like two miles the other way to the other store. But otherwise, I mean it's quiet around here. I'm not here in as many helicopters as I normally hear in this area. Yeah. It's it's a lot of the fast food places are open. I noticed when I was driving there officer like that thing, I guess eight. So people are in drive-throughs.

I seen that and yeah, I'm concerned about you know, personally I'm just concerned about like how many people are passing away and I hear ambulances which lets me know that people picking up people and I hear those probably twice a day and I you know, I say a prayer when I hear that but yeah, I think people really need to focus on keeping that immune system up. Yeah. I was thinking of staying

The strong survive and it seems like everybody's going to get it

we all we all know when you look at the numbers obesity your so I would 300 pounds. I don't know if you know that or not. I used to be really fat as as a younger person and you know that is correlated with income like the the less money you have the greater chance you have of being really fat which also means diabetic almost a hundred percent of the time type 2 diabetic or you're about to be and you know, that's a big problem.

Mm and certificates a bigger problem if you're black, right and and I'm wondering if that death the death rate from coronavirus is mostly economic where they don't have access to good food or it's some kind of a nutrient thing and I've been thinking about that quite a bit and I there's something that's not that's not right going on there. And and so I've got some thoughts on

it. Well, I got definitely these food deserts and the way people eat is

It has I think a huge effect on your house food joints, right but a lot of people I know for people at this point that have passed away and I think all of them either okay, two of them are older someone's like my age. Someone was younger in in the way that I've seen it like a well three of them already had issues with certain things blood pressure issues diabetes and a sickle cell.

Yeah, the younger one, you know Luna. I don't know. I don't know. I don't you don't know why. Yeah, you know, you just not like I'm just drinking my Ginger and my tumeric every day and it's gonna take my vitamin C's and it working out making sure I'm using my lungs to push, you know clear out everything,

but if I'm strong, right

Do you know about vitamin D

Oh, yeah. Well, I hear about that all the time to like get vitamin D if that's not right and then like I guess for people of color, it's harder to absorb vitamin D it from the Sun. I guess there's no

it's everybody changes sunlight into vitamin D and it just takes more sunlight for you to do it then for me because I'm you know, I'm completely but white at least my butt white and so if I go out in the sun for 20 minutes, I'm going to make

Vitamin D. If you go in the sun for an hour, you'll make the same amount of vitamin D because you have survival genes to be in bright sunlight and I basically my people involved somewhere in northern Europe where it's cloudy all the time, but that the different and there's something that's bothering me since I started the blog it is that when you don't have enough vitamin D because you don't get as much sun, but you and me both spend about the same amount of time indoors, which is too much for either one of us, but it's even

worse

you. Okay, so you

You might actually beat me at

I got a little can you see my pan? I got ya. Okay

now for me, I don't know. I'm about the same color and it's all way but so that means I'm not tan enough. We got to get vitamin D to moms and it should be free and we got to get vitamin D to kids and it should be free at school and that she just be part of how we do it because it's it's cheaper than a school lunch program to do it for a whole month I get is.

Not it's you know a couple bucks. Right and we get healthier kids miss school less healthier everybody and I think it matters and at the same time as they will put it in milk they'll but they put the wrong form in milk, so it doesn't really work. So what would come to nothing like mortal? Enemy? It's ruined.

Us for a lot of kids especially ones like you and me by the way who had behavioral problems. We were young and my wife at was big. I might have been in more than a few fights. I never throw the first punch, but I often times through the last one and the same thing, you know, if I don't talk I would literally pass out in class the whole reason I have a career is because I'd be the guy in the meeting who would get so bored. I'd have to talk ride fall asleep. So I would talk and then I get promoted and like that that really is true and I have the Neuroscience to prove it. So but you give me milk, I'm ten times worse than I was before. It's like

Drug. Yeah,

so I would say put a few drops in kids food, you know, you get a little dropper. It's going to be like 20 bucks. I'll ask you for three months for kids. They can't taste it. It just goes in there.

I think a little vitamin D pill every

morning so good. And that's one of the things that it's Dirt Cheap that's going to lower risk for all cause mortality including the virus. It's not going to cure the virus but I think you know, the more the more people can do that. I'm actually I took I'm taking next I'm taking for my body weight. I'm about

200 and 200 6 pounds last night. So I take three pills because I need a lot of vitamin D because my body doesn't handle it very well and my kids are getting you know, they're getting their one but kind of an adult size pillow because you know, if any of us get said I want us to be the ones who were like, oh, yeah. I got a little sick last week. Not that I went to the hospital last week and like that's the goal for everyone and I feel like sometimes the stuff to do it's expensive but vitamin D vitamin C and Zinc are

We cheap so, you know a gram of vitamin C a day because I got a cure the virus. It's not a shield to protect you. It just means you might have a little bit more, you know a little bit more. Yeah resistance. That's the word for it. So you're resilient and you're doing your best with your diet and I know that you're you're all so what's your favorite machine there at upgrade?

Laughs it's cheap machine. How was I?

You know after I will hook you up there's probably a way to get a small version of that at home that's going to tide you over. All right,

but

it works but it works. Yeah treadmills are dried Mills right at least you got something but what else you doing that like you've learned to take care of your body and you have it sounds like a sense.

Rain, like I do like you give you give either one of us milk, you know the way you're describing your childhood. I they would have said I had Asperger's Syndrome had Oppositional Defiant Disorder. They just gave me detention and then I would get in fights believe it or

not. You think it's because where I come from you back you bad ass, but bad kids don't follow directions bag. I got that

I definitely got that I had to deal with it all to do you think you'd do you have that voice in your head still this as like you're bad at that little one like oh you fail.

And all that.

Yeah that you ain't never gonna be shit. Yeah disrespectful. You dumb stupid like this do you function? Okay. There's that childhood voice that comes up. It's like you're not good enough. You're done your mama, then it's like my teenage adult stuff like shut up. You don't know what you know what I'm doing.

Be quiet. I'm gonna fix this. Okay.

All right, when I was 30, I found someone who could look inside my brain, they put radioactive sugar in my arm, and then they scanned my brain and they thought I was hitting them up to get Adderall so I could I could do better in school and all that. And after I walked into the psychiatrist's office, I walk in and he goes you just have I saw your brain. He's like inside your brain is total chaos. I don't know how you're standing here in front of me, right?

Now you have the best camouflage of any human I've ever met direct quote from a psychiatrist and then he gave me the drugs. So I'm with you Tiffany and I

started

I was like I have to hack this and and that's part of the upgrade lab saying like the stuff you do there to make your biology works better calms the brain makes it work better. And then I started 40 years as in this is that Neuroscience thing I do in Seattle and I spent four months with electrodes trying to shut up that

But I honestly feel like I finally got it there where I don't have that, you know, you're you know, you're a failure bad, you know, people are going to know that you're not worth it and all that stuff. Like that's actually I think it's permanently gone. Maybe I'll rear its head

again. I'm a different person speaking louder than the voice and always have to be like prove it prove it. You can't nice watch what I do now prove it you can't I got this.

Ha ha ha. Yeah. Yeah. She definitely did it and there's a part of me that's grateful because it I feel like it's kept me humble to a certain extent and I feel like it has it's a it's like hard in my shell to the point where like, okay social media wasn't around when I was you know,

First starting out like instead of and now like it's boom is everywhere. Right? And you hear what everybody you can read what everybody thinks about you and how they feel how smart you are dumb. You are how you're a disgrace to the culture or your are she's a genius like all these things in some people say that I'm going to read one time. Somebody said how she gets hit by an ice cream truck and it backs up over and I was like damn wow evil mean things to me. This would actually hurt.

Yeah tougher

right it prepared is so the voice goes off and I'm like, okay, I hear you, but no not on right now. Well, maybe I'll give you 5 minutes in the shower. That's where I Cry.

How did you learn those coping skills? Did someone teach you that did you just like just willpower? Like I'm going to I'm going to figure this out because that's kind of Ninja level stuff a lot of people to get that voice in your head. You have the background you had they don't they don't learn how to rise above it and you you're doing something that's pretty unusual

unusual character. That's why I'm the last black unicorn but

you slide your Memoir title right in there. I love

I think it's like a combination of watching a lot of TV on self-help stuff. Okay, self-help books, and I love me some Louise Hay found a lot of just in time. Okay and read all her books. Like I was kind of sad when she passed because I really want to meet her but for me, yeah, I think it's a combination of a lot of different things.

And just figuring out what works for me using my discernment.

Well, you say you had the wisdom to go out and find those books. What are some of the other ones that had a really big impact on you

big impact. You know what asking it is received. That's my Abraham Hicks.

Yeah Abraham Hicks, right? So you go old school on your personal development probably wind up.

You gotta remember after the 1990s, so

I still have a library and when I was coming up on the all these books this is when I was not the best reader, but I heard an NPR saying that if you listen to audio books for two years straight, that's the equivalent of getting a bachelor's degree, right it is yeah, so I started getting I said, okay, so I'm going to get some audio books that's like fantasy sex stuff from man forget audiobooks.

Like self-help grow, you know protect yourself become and how to be like, what's that Rich Dad Poor Dad? Yeah, that's kind of books or weekend millionaire. That's not like I buy buy properties. I've been buying pot every time I get some money. I'm like, let me buy some land. Wow, like because it 15 years if I buy one piece of property every year for 15 years. I'll be a multi-millionaire regardless of what happens with my career.

You know, it's true.

I mean you're saying, you know, you're the the the last the last black unicorn and still I I know a few people from even a wealthier childhood who have the level of resilience that you've shown to do that like to go out and do that level of inner work and then to actually take action in to do it and you're doing it financially you doing it in your career you take advice from people even though you probably the way grew up probably didn't learn to take advice from people you learn.

Learn to fear because I mean get

you laughs. I learned that fear and do not trust people and everyone wants to hurt. You rape you steal from you something to you. Like that's that's also always running in the back of my mind. That's why it's like when I decide to trust somebody it's a it's a big deal. Yeah. It's a big deal, you know.

Decide to trust you then I

trust you right

betrayed me. Then I gotta pray for you.

Even that's like a real Advanced skill and that's you know, forgiveness and compassion, you know, turn the other cheek kind of stuff. That's that's not it's not what you learned growing up. See you you're an unusual Spirit

what what I what I have learned though is especially in my 20s. I learned that like, you have to learn how to forgive you do not ever forget but you have to learn how to forgive because if you hold on to that it's

Ways it's always hurting you. It's always making you sick. You'll be the one with the period that lasts for two months because you messed up because you not sleeping and eating right cause you stress out because you really want to get revenge or you feel so upset like instead of just letting it go let go let God like what's my lunch kind of do that my health everything elevated when I learned how to do that that don't mean I forgot.

Yeah, it's that that Nuance is a big difference in seeking Revenge. All the time is so expensive and maintaining hate but if you forget what people you know bad people did then you're kind of a sucker. Right

right, so don't forget it but yet forgive. I mean I used to meditate on how to get revenge on people right? I try not to do it so much anymore. Sometimes it comes up it comes up. Yeah.

I can let crickets loosen a car and put lettuce under the seats and that right there. That's that way. You won't go to jail. Like how can I do this without going to jail?

I'm gonna not piss you off. That's what I'm deciding. I don't want to go to jail. I don't want cookie. You've learned how to meditate you've been how to forgive you feel like you've learned how to you know manage the intense life and you travel a lot when you're both in a show or if you're doing comedy. Have you

Managed your your biology like, you know how to you go to a hotel and you like make sure you go eat the right foods and like you're out. Do you have a whole Entourage with you? Who's bringing you salads and stuff. I like how do you pull it off? Really?

Yes. Oh, really? Yeah, I make sure there is a salad for me when I get wherever I'm going or fresh fruit like that. That's like mandatory. There's either solid or fresh fruit and then be and I need like a lot of water. I drink like a gallon of water a day.

And so like when I get to the hotel and they better be three large bottles of water there for me, preferably alkaline, or at least bring water and I killed that water all that water. And then I drink Vodka

the cure for everything

and it was really hard on me. I was getting sick a lot crying a lot because it was

a lot. It's like all these different things can people like I cannot absorb this information like it was a lot and then I just had to learn how to say, okay. No, I'm not doing that or I need the show is going to be an hour late because I need another hour of sleep. Like I need it really really realizing how important it is for me to sleep. This this pandemic. Hmm. I've never been so rest in my

You're getting tons of sleep, you're meditating every day don't have to drive anywhere.

I haven't felt this. I haven't felt like this since I was like 19, you know, I'm just like okay and not feeling like when I was it was a lot of fear when I was 19. So happy with this 40 year old me because it's not as much fear. That's like even when I'm not worrying about a lot of things there's certain things. I do have concerns about what I've learned how not

To be a worrywart, you know like that this one thing dominate my whole entire day like yeah or let this one thing dominate every Converse I can't stand when people had is when you be around certain people and they have a conversation with one person that you here and have a conversation with number and they keep talking about the same thing over and over and over all day and then they wonder why they so fucked up because you keep talking about that's a fucked up thing called a my new personal.

I do know the type you're talking about and yeah, you tell em the same victim story to every person you meet. It's not going to work. So well,

you're not a professional victims. I got I had a few friends like that and I miss them terribly but I had to let them go. You know, I'd rather be a professional resilience person or prepare professional Overcomer of things. I'd rather be telling how I achieve something as opposed to how I'm

We being torn down. Yeah, I couldn't you'll constantly be torn out. I mean it'd be

easy for you to tell that story to yourself. I mean given what you've what you've shared and you don't I mean I can tell you don't which is which is really impressive it. I don't know you got some discipline that that some self-discipline there that that is that's remarkable because you see a lot of people in the act one way on stage. But if you talk to someone for an hour like this back and forth you can you can tell the people who are like I'm putting on the ACT. I'm supposed to put on and inside.

I'm angry at the world and I'm going to kill them if you don't have that Vibe at all. So it really really good at hiding

it. I'm not good at hide. And now if you

could tell someone who hears this interview, like what you think they could do to build that same ability. What would you what would you

tell him? So I think the first thing they should do is

If they got that crazy talk going on in their head this will I learn from Louise Hays and I think it really helped me so much and I learned it but I was like but 31 32 and it really took my maybe it's a part of for five months for things to really change. But and then the morning I did it the more drastic my life changed, but you don't look at yourself in the eyes in the mirror, right? Just look at the black part of your eye or the pupil of your eye. Yeah, and you

Get yourself and you say your first last name or your full complete name and say I love and approve of you. So I'll be in a mirror like Tiffany Sarah Cornelia haddish, I love and approve of Tiffany Sarah Cornelia. Hi - I love and approving you do that for five minutes. He's supposed to do it every day. The first time I did it. I couldn't even I couldn't even last a minute. I like really like 30 seconds without crying because I really don't feel that way about myself and you know, and it's like you're the words that you say or like mad.

Kick and it programs all the cells in your body in your whole like energy field to be that way. So when you start programming whatever you program, whatever comes out your mouth constantly, that's what it's going to be. Right. So if I constantly say, I love and approve of myself, then I'll be able to protect myself better and the energy that I'll be putting out. The suit of armor that I have on we're not going to the world is all we have he needs to be loved and approved of that's the one that we love and approve of

Us and then that's what it is that bounce because I've been goes to somebody else. They start feeling the same way when I come into the room a feeling loved and approved food. Like it's

contagious. It's fresh. Yeah, it's viral

you not at the end of my comedy shows. I always try to I curse the audience with all the success Joy love and happiness that they can handle and I told him I hope that they become infected with happiness. So is

Acting with joy happiness and love and success that it becomes contagious and when you sneeze you sneeze joy and you shit your shit success, I curse you with that.

What is the audience say when you get in there was just be loving it

right there like At first I said,

oh, that's so cool.

That's a beautiful thing to do.

Yes, but I would say the program themselves to have love and compassion for themselves is the first I think the first step to getting anything changed in your life for the positive. It really not not nothing being a lover of self. I'm saying like care about you so that you can care about others because if you're not taking care of you can't do anything for anybody else.